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Finding The Balance |
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| Finding The Balance By BenNewbery on Tue 3rd Oct, 06 at 12:54:35 | ||
| I’ve come to some realisations recently as to why I fell into the pit I did, and just how I pulled myself out of it and I thought I’d share some of my thoughts with you all. Granted I perceive things differently in hindsight, but the last few months are still very fresh in my memory. If you can relate to the feeling of low energy and high stress like you feel like yourself rearing toward some form of Defcon 5 emotive, then perhaps you’ve been going through something similar! Small businesses or not easy to run, and neither is being self-employed! It takes a particular kind of person to do well. It’s a lot like running a marathon where the finishing line often seems very distant. You’re constantly pushing yourself and perhaps those around you and you rarely have time to catch you breath. Regardless of what I say to other people I have never been very good at following my own advice and taking the time to care for myself. I often focus on what the people around me deserve, and always have some excuse as to why I can skip it. Of course that unbalance is inevitable as part of what you need is to take care of your business, and what’s best for the business is good for you. My work is my livelihood, and balancing it with a full social life leaves little time for self-maintenance when things get crazy. I guess the most important thing I’ve learned is not to panic. You always know things will get better eventually; life is a never-ending journey until your dead and it’s impossible to predict what will be thrown at you from one day till the next. You’ve just got to take it in your stride. It’s easy to say “just run with it”, but when the world is getting tighter around just stop for five minutes. You have full control over your own feelings which in turn affect your behaviour and the outcome of every situation. If you try and tackle hard problems when you’re desperately stressed your decision-making ability is certainly compromised. Turn your phone off and relax for a bit, it will help you recharge! Sometimes you forget the bigger picture, it’s easy to become tangled in the craziness of every day hurdles and mini adventures. I find writing helps, it quiets the mind and lets you get your thoughts out. Of course it only helps if you write in an uncensored way – can’t be worrying about grammar or impressing a reader. You have to explore that person inside and get what they want to say out onto the page. When it’s really piling up: Keep your friends close, and kick your enemies out the door! Even if it’s just for five minutes I find calling a an objective friend always gives me a fresh perspective. It’s much harder when you feel stressed AND alone. Running your own business can be very solitary. I find when I call someone most of the time we end up talking about something completely off topic from what’s on my mind. But a little laughter is all I need to rejuvenate. You do have to be sure seek out someone you feel secure sharing with though. I’ve learned the hard way just how much worse things can get if you keep your stresses to yourself, our minds are to lucid to be contained! Most importantly of course, have fun! As well as relaxing and everything else I’ve rambled on it’s amazing what a weekend away, or just a trip to a new restaurant you’ve always wanted to go to can do for your spirits. Being somewhere where work and finances can’t bother you is key. It’s especially satisfying if you do it on your own because of the contrast to your usual solitary stresses. This week I took my camera out and photographed parts of Manchester I have always wanted to get some pictures of. Of course that doesn’t mean you should neglect your relationships with other people, at the end of the day it’s your friends and family who are always there regardless of the sunshine or hail pouring down. |
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